There is a famous quote that merits a challenge. Mind you, these are my own observations and from my own perspective but something for you to think about.
“I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
First, I have a very long memory, that is for things that are important to me. So although I often forget what was said when I don't think it's very important, like what my mum told me was going to be for dinner when I go to visit her. I never forget a lie. Just me ... I notice them, and I notice how many times I notice them. I've noticed when others have done it, and I notice it when I've done it. Like a little mini-scorecard.
But most important is the last part of that quote. "...how you made them feel." Well, here's the challenge. I used to believe people (I'm sure we've all experienced this on occasion) when they'd recount a story about some other person, only to reflect upon it (sometimes years later!) and think to myself "That just doesn't fit my own experience of him/her"... I can't imagine him/her being that way." ...and here's a the quote, reconstructed for you to consider.
“I've learned that you can never make someone feel anything. Most people are unconscious, they react and they justify their feelings with "reasons". They get their "reasons" by forgetting what was actually said, forgetting what was actually done, and creating and living inside of their story about how you made them feel, when they really made themselves feel that way.”
Both arguments are all over the web. Which one contains all the melodrama? I don't know about you, but I think the first.
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